How Do You Know If You’re Ready For Marriage?

It will take you months to pick a wedding venue. It will take you weeks to pick the dress. It will take you days to address the invitations. Whether you are engaged or engaged-to-be-engaged or simply dreaming of the day your man gets down on one knee, you have probably thought more than a minute … Continue reading “How Do You Know If You’re Ready For Marriage?”



5 “Must Have” Conversations with your Partner

In the earliest days of a romantic relationship, you can’t get enough of each other. You want to know everything—who, what, where and how—and you want to know it now. Your infatuation infiltrates your mind and your mutual desire to connect on every level envelopes every moment. As your relationship blossoms and you begin to … Continue reading “5 “Must Have” Conversations with your Partner”



5 Myths about Relationship Counseling

When you hear “going to relationship counseling,” the phrase is often followed up by a this-can’t-be-a-good-thing feeling. There are preconceived ideas about who goes, what it means and what happens during a counseling session such as: “If you need to go to someone to help you fix it, you’re a failure”; “The relationship must be … Continue reading “5 Myths about Relationship Counseling”



It Takes Work – Weekly Round-up

With all the holiday hustle and bustle, our relationships and time for ourselves can sometime get pushed to the bottom of the priority list. In looking over the articles for my weekly round-up, the theme seems to be that it takes work to take of ourselves and our relationships. Settle in with a cup of … Continue reading “It Takes Work – Weekly Round-up”



The 4 Cs of Love

Love is alive. It is a living, breathing entity that you need to nurture continuously. It must be fed, explored, kindled over and over again. And without care, the love in your relationship can become an unspoken word and unfelt emotion. Without attention, love can fizzle or fade. I know that sounds harsh, but this … Continue reading “The 4 Cs of Love”



Do You Deserve Better?

When you’re happy and your needs are being met, you feel content, fulfilled and secure in your relationship. But if your mind starts to wander and think about if you deserve better than what you’re getting, then it likely means that you do deserve better. Your needs matter. Your partner’s needs matter too. If you … Continue reading “Do You Deserve Better?”



Does Your Relationship Need a Tune-Up?

Things were going well. No, they were going great. Magical, even. You and your partner were happy — really happy. There was no tension, no jealousy and only small arguments that ended quickly and usually with laughter. Life and love just seemed smooth, calm and easy. Your happily ever after had begun. But now it … Continue reading “Does Your Relationship Need a Tune-Up?”



Leaving Your Relational Baggage At the Door

We are collectors. Throughout our lives, we collect opinions, passions, memories and insights. We internalize these collections and they become a part of how we act and react, what we say and how we say it, and the decisions we make. By the time we are adults, we have collected decades’ worth of life-changing experiences. … Continue reading “Leaving Your Relational Baggage At the Door”



A Relationship Is Like A House

Relationships, like houses, take work and need updating every once in awhile. If you’re having difficulties in your relationship, it doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the relationship. It might just mean that you need to do some repairs. 



Why Therapy Works: One Couple’s Story

I hear a lot of excuses about why couples don’t think they need a therapist to help fix their relationship woes. And yes, they are excuses. Because, at the end of the day, seeing a therapist means a couple is willing to do whatever it takes to save their marriage. No “buts” or “ifs” or … Continue reading “Why Therapy Works: One Couple’s Story”