December 20th, 2013
Going through a breakup is something every woman has to experience, however, how the experience affects us is something we have control over. When a relationship ends, whether he left or we had to leave due to his bad behavior, our hearts are truly broken. Broken because we put everything we had into making the relationship work to only find out our efforts were not being reciprocated. Our dreams and hopes come face to face with the reality that:
- The relationship will not turn out the way we wanted
- We have to deal with the pain the relationship left behind.
Don’t worry, I am not going to give you some unbelievable motivational line like “take the bull by the horns and get on with your life.” Because I know this is bullshit and after a breakup the last thing you want to do is grab anything other than the remote and a piece of sweetness that melts in your mouth. Well that is how I felt. After a breakup you can’t think about moving forward with your life until you have the following questions (that literally stalk you) answered:
- What will I tell people when they ask me what happened?
- How long will it take to me to get over him?
- Was it my fault…how could I have been so stupid?
- Why do I keep making the same mistakes?
- Will I ever find the right guy for me?
It may take you some time to answer these questions but once you do you will start feeling better about yourself. I can’t give a time when the pain will go away but I can tell you if you take the time to go through the healing process at the end you will be a better person.
If you have any questions you want to ask me or want to talk with me about how to start the healing process after a breakup, you can call me at (864) 559-8181 to schedule an appointment.