February 5th, 2018
There are times when stress and jobs and kids and mortgage payments suck the joy, the passion, the sexiness out of life.
And out of your relationship.
You fondly remember those years when sex and romance was just, well, natural. There was kissing, cuddling and make-out sessions that lasted hours. It felt like heat and flirtation radiated off you two. Sex was never intentional or procedural. It just happened… and happened.
And then it stopped happening so often.
You’ve heard it a million times: When your relationship matures, the heat can cool and the flirtation can turn to “Did you remember to pick up diapers at the grocery store?”
But the romance should not fade. You deserve better than that.
When you watch this video, I want you to rethink the connection between sex, emotions and your relationship. This is your opportunity to break free from the cliche of a sexless marriage, and take back the passion and intimacy you once had with your partner. It’s time to turn off Netflix, put your phones on silent and enjoy each other.
I know that it is easier said than done. A date night is not the end-all, be-all solution to your relationship challenges. But date nights, little gifts and love notes, surprises and fun moments together are the spaces you create to foster connection. Individually, they don’t seem significant, but when you make them a priority, they become a powerful force.
But they are only part of solving your sex struggles.
You and your partner must also put a focus on feeling safe, growing trust and celebrating honesty. You need to be able to communicate.
That is not easy, I know. But that’s my point: Once you’ve been together a while, it’s not easy. When you start dating, there are no complications. There is no long-term plan, and it’s easy being the person they want you to be. The emotional and sexual aspects of your relationship are on autopilot, and there’s no reason to bring up your lack of satisfaction, right?
Then your casual fling turned into love and commitment, and you are still avoiding that lack of satisfaction. And your relationship is beginning to suffer because of it.
In long-term relationships emotional connection means a stronger sexual connection. Likewise, emotional disconnection can mean you start to feel more like roommates than lovers.
Instead of bottling up your wants and needs, you need to talk about sex. You need to talk about your desires, and you need to listen to your partner’s desires. That’s why trust and honesty and sex intermingle: because you must feel unyieldingly comfortable with your partner to be so vulnerable.
It’s difficult to trust. But I’m here to help.
Together, we will heal, grow and work to make your relationship sexier, more passionate and emotionally satisfying. If you want to book an appointment with me go here.
See you soon!